Language : Use it or will use you

(The product of a facebook thread. Best social experiment yet.)

To think that you can write something in a certain way ensuring the way it is perceived, is to participate in insanity. There is no style, let alone the obvious limitations of the written word, that can increase or decrease the like-ability of myself or discussion. I can load sentences with condescension or any other interpreted tone and influence the effect it has on you at that moment but even rudeness has it’s futility, should you be wise.

Because these words themselves have nothing to do with me. The ways on which you receive my communication (if about an subjective matter not you personally of course. Slander is not included in this rant) has more to do with you, your efforts to be heard, the need to feel agreed with or challenged. This is the basis from which you source reaction, nothing more.

Whether or not I agree with you or that you may like me enough to agree with me should be of no concern to either of us because there’s nothing that we as humans can ever do to guarantee the feelings of another person. Feelings, like opinions, yours and mine, have no basis in who I am, and are forever changing.

Now, we are all susceptible of throwing a lil excitement into our stories, but exaggeration is a slippery slope when you talk about real issues, so please be aware of this when speaking from a comfortable town, house, school system, and bank account. Respect language, it’s all we have. Try not to put more water under the bridge and start calling things what they are. Use your words or they will use you.

Ie. Your kids will become what you’ve called them since inception “out of control” your job the “nightmare” you wake up to every morning, and husband a “disaster” that you don’t have sex with because you feel “fat” or he’s an “asshole” and besides your house is a “wreck” there’s so much to do, life is “insane” and you “can’t deal” with it, but this dress, that bag, and this glass of wine is “amazing!” (This doesn’t just go for women- only right now)

We all live differently of course and you can keep the order of your priorities as you will, maybe the sex is better when he’s an asshole and you come home from your nightmare of a job! But, for the love of humanity, it’s a big world out there, try not to lose perspective.

It is this very trap, the narrowing of vision that has us and so many countries discussing trivial issues in a time when we need critical solutions.

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